For Richer or Poorer
September 03, 2014 |
| I do. |
As a friend, I share in their excitement of becoming a Mrs, see their ecstatic Facebook status updates and the all important photos of the bling. I'm honoured to be invited to their special day, and in some cases even to be part of the bridal party. I can count the number of weddings I've attended with one hand, but now my social calender is full of big days every other month and as their special day edges closer, the calender is filled with engagement parties, kitchen teas, dress fittings, hen's nights, dance practices and everything in between.
There is no doubt that the wedding season is officially in full swing!
But as much as I'm privileged to be part of their marital celebrations, it is getting increasingly untenable for the wallet, as each big event demand an even bigger share of the money. Interestingly, weddings are the only occasion in which one may ask with complete impunity to be given cash as gifts. The fine print "Your presence at our wedding is present enough...but a monetary gift will be appreciated" perhaps is one of the most contradictory, perplexing and implicit coded messages to disguise the transactional nature of cash giving in order to make the request seem more polite and maintain personal face ("Your Presence at Our Wedding is Present Enough": Lies, Coding, Maintaining Personal Face, and the Cash Gift", Pauline Greenhill & Kendra Magnusson).
Just thinking.
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